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Posted by Dr. Beverlee
on March 31, 2005 at 13:50:33:
Date: Mar 2005 Dear Dr. Beverly, Thanks. Dear J: A marriage committed to love, understanding, and above all respect is one which endures the challenges of life. Two partners each with healthy self-esteem trust in the self, and a belief that they are lovable just the way they are allows the marriage to grow and prosper. Many things are planted in this garden which brings joy and a sense of comfort. If the partners lack the qualities which nourish the garden many plants will wither and die. The Yin: No one can say, except you, what creates unhappiness. Take some time to develop the self within you. This self – or spirit – is capable of many creative, richer things. Sometimes guides are needed to help us leave the damage behind and move on to this person of self-worth. Check your city for all the available resources – be it a group, a lecture, or therapist, etc. Where I live there is a women’s center called Fresh Start. I volunteer time there to teach a seminar to help women gain a perspective and new choices in their lives. Perhaps you can find something similar. The Yang: All of us have been damaged in our past. With the right support we find our truer, worthy self. Don’t give up. A life worth living awaits you. Feel free to write again. |